How To Gain The Respect of Others

If you want to be respected and treated properly by others, you must train them to respect and treat you properly.

Below are a few guidelines for training others to treat you with the respect you deserve:

• Stop saying yes to everything. Saying no sends a message that your time is valuable. The occasional no lets others know that they cannot walk all over you. It takes courage to say no. Don’t let fear hold you back. No is like a stop sign that says “I am not your slave”. Saying yes to everything is another sign that says “I am your slave”. Saying yes all the time trains others to walk all over you.
• Don’t give into others just to get along. Surrendering all the time to the will of others sends a powerful message that you are weak. Be obstinate every now and then. It lets others know that you are a force to be reckoned with, that you are strong and confident. Giving in trains others that you are weak.
• Don’t vacillate. Stand your ground on things you believe in. If you constantly change your mind or allow others to change your opinion, you send a message that you can be easily manipulated. You train others to manipulate you when you don’t stand your ground.
• Continuously grow your knowledge and skills. The more expert you become, in what you do, the more respected you will be.
• Write – Write books, write articles, do speaking engagements, become a media contributor. When you write about a topic, you must fully understand that topic, in order to communicate what you know to others through your writing. Writing forces you to become more knowledgeable about whatever it is you are writing about. When you are perceived to be an “expert” in the public eye, you will become more respected.

Tom Corley is an accountant, financial planner and author of “Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to Be Happy and Successful in Life”, “Effort-Less Wealth”, “Change Your Habits Change Your Life”, “Rich Habits Poor Habits”, “Rich Habits: The Routines Millionaires Use Daily to Build Wealth” and “Rich Habits Wealth Academy.”